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Binding: Paperback
Dewey Decimal Number: 306.7
EAN: 9780805068955
ISBN: 0805068953
Label: Holt Paperbacks
Manufacturer: Holt Paperbacks
Number Of Items: 1
Number Of Pages: 303
Publication Date: September 01, 2001
Publisher: Holt Paperbacks
Sales Rank: 35525
Studio: Holt Paperbacks
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The bestselling guide to transforming an intimate relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship., with a new foreword and chapter from the author
In Getting the Love You Want, Dr. Harville Hendrix presents the relationship skills that have already helped hundreds of thousands of couples to replace confrontation and criticism with a healing process of mutual growth and support. This extraordinary practical guide describes the revolutionary technique of Imago Relationship Therapy, which combines a number of disciplines--including the behavioral sciences, depth psychology, cognitive therapy, and Gestalt therapy, among others-- to create a program to resolve conflict and renew communication and passion.
Getting the Love You Want describes the three stages of intimate relationships, provides illustrative case studies and gives helpful recommendations to overcome the obstacles in those stages to create a stronger bond between couples. First, he chronicles the stages of most relationships-attraction, romantic love and the power struggle-and suggests ways for partners to identify the conflicts associated with each of them. Then, he explores methods for achieving a 'Conscious Marriage,' where the early phases of romance are rekindled and confrontation is slowly replaced by growth and support. Finally, Dr. Hendrix incorporates these ideas into a unique therapeutic course, offering a series of proven exercises that lead to insight, resolution and revitalization. Step by step, he describes how to communicate with greater accuracy and sensitivity, how to let go of self-defeating behaviors, and how to focus energy on meeting each partners' needs.
With Getting the Love You Want couples in any stage of a relationship can resolve their conflicts and achieve mutual emotional satisfaction.
Amazon.com Review:
When Harville Hendrix writes about relationships, he discusses them not just as an educator and a therapist, but as a man who has himself been through a failed marriage. Hendrix felt the sting of his divorce intensely because he believed it signaled not only his failure as a husband but also his failure as a couples counselor. Investigating why his marriage dissolved led him to start looking into the psychology of love. Marriage, he ultimately discovered, is the 'practice of becoming passionate friends.'
As a result of his research, Hendrix created a therapy he calls Imago Relationship Therapy. In it, he combines what he's learned in a number of disciplines, including the behavioral sciences, depth psychology, cognitive therapy, and Gestalt therapy, to name just a few. He expounds upon this approach in Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples. His purpose in writing the book, he says, is 'to share with you what I have learned about the psychology of love relationships, and to help you transform your relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship.'
Divided into three sections, the book covers 'The Unconscious Marriage,' which details a marriage in which the remaining desires and behavior of childhood interfere with the current relationship; 'The Conscious Marriage,' which shows a marriage that fulfils those childhood needs in a positive manner; and a 10-week 'course in relationship therapy, ' which gives detailed exercises for you and your partner to follow in order to learn how to 'replace confrontation and criticism ... with a healing process of mutual growth and support.' The text is occasionally dry and technical; however, the information provided is valuable, the case studies are interesting, and the exercises are revealing and helpful. By utilizing his program, Hendrix hopes you too will be able to solve your marital difficulties without the expense of a therapist. --Jenny Brown
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I'm a therapist and it's the best relationship book I've ever read. It has helped personally and professionally. I recommend it to all couples and anyone wanting to understand and work on having better partner relationships.
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Getting The Love You Want is an excellent book with many insights and examples. There are helpful excercises to do to understand yourself and relationships better. I would recommend buying this book.
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I looked at this book from a different perspective than most readers. I didn't read it as a person in need of relationship advice. Rather, I read it as a person who has been happily married for 22 years. My question was, how closely did the advice in this book match what I was doing successfully?
A bestseller since 1988, the book is separated into 3 sections:
-the first part talks about how unmet childhood needs can affect your future relationships.
-the second ... Read More
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Harville's approach to relationships helps you find out who you are and how you love. I recommend this to friends all the time.
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This book was recommended to me by my marriage therapist to help my husband and I understand why we act the way we do in relationships. The book helps see what in our childhoods led to the way we act in our adult relationships. It goes on to help understand one another and grow and heal from these experiences to create a much better, healthier marriage. I highly recommend this book regardless of whether you're married or not. It could be beneficial for current relationships, understanding past relationships ... Read More
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