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by: Susan Forward, Donna Frazier See Larger Image List Price: $13.95 Our Price: $11.16 You Save: $2.79 (20%) Prices subject to change. Used Price: $4.95 Third Party New Price: $7.00 Availability: Usually ships in 24 hours This item ships for FREE with Super Saver Shipping. Binding: Paperback Dewey Decimal Number: 158.2 EAN: 9780060928971 ISBN: 0060928972 Label: Harper Paperbacks Manufacturer: Harper Paperbacks Number Of Items: 1 Number Of Pages: 272 Publication Date: April 01, 1998 Publisher: Harper Paperbacks Release Date: March 04, 1998 Sales Rank: 1951 Studio: Harper Paperbacks Related Items: Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life Emotional Vampires: Dealing With People Who Drain You Dry In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People Why Is It Always About You? : The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-up's Guide to Getting over Narcissistic Parents see more Editorial Review: Product Description: 'If you really loved me...' 'After all I've done for you...' 'How can you be so selfish...' Do any of the above sound familiar? They're all examples of emotional blackmail, a powerful form of manipulation in which people close to us threaten to punish us for not doing what they want. Emotional blackmailers know how much we value our relationships with them. They know our vulnerabilities and our deepest secrets. They are our mothers, our partners, our bosses and coworkers, our friends and our lovers. And no matter how much they care about us, they use this intimate knowledge to give themselves the payoff they want: our compliance. Susan Forward knows what pushes our hot buttons. Just as John Gray illuminates the communications gap between the sexes in Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and Harriet Lerner describes an intricate dynamic in The Dance of Anger, so Susan Forward presents the anatomy of a relationship damaged by manipulation, and gives readers an arsenal of tools to fight back. In her clear, no-nonsense style, Forward provides powerful, practical strategies for blackmail targets, including checklists, practice scenarios and concrete communications techniques that will strengthen relationships and break the blackmail cycle for good. Customer Reviews Average Rating: Rating: - Never be a victim again Great book for people who are pressured to do things againt their will People who are easily manipulated by people close to them (spouse, parent, friend.. etc) After reading this book I see things more clearly now how blackmailers use Fear Obligation and Guilt (FOG) tackticts to get their target's complaince This book shows you also which emotion of the 3 affects your decision the most and how to over come them, it also shows how you can take a stand for what you believe ... Read More Rating: - From the first page I was thinking this book hits the nail on the head. I was so glad to finally find a book that spoke of exactly what the truth of the matter is. I loved how Susan took the subject and instead of making it about victims, she made it about how to watch for the signs of emotional blackmail, how to recognize the difference of conflicting feeling verses control issues. I enjoyed reading this book more than any other Verbal abuse book I have read so far. She hits the nail on the head with this book.. it is blackmail, simple as that! In the last part she ... Read More Rating: - lifechanging book, but... The book IS great, you can read about its value in every other review on this site. I will not repeat them, instead I will tell about the little "but..": most of "healthy" or "non-pathological" relationships we support is not of the bipolar model of the offender and the offended one. Usually we use some forms of lightweight blackmail in one place where receive it in another: it is very hard to draw a distinct rule between asking and manipulating, and the more we need/want/desire something from the ... Read More Rating: - For those in need, I highly recommend this book! I myself am currently in the FOG that she describes in this and it has hit home very well and helping me redeem myself. She's VERY good at explaining and assisting. Sometimes I feel she's right there. Very informative about the different types of emotional blackmailers. I'm not done reading, but have gotten 3/4 of the way and I am so happy I bought this book. It caught my eye one day browsing through the bookstore, never bought it out of fear probably. My friend coaxed me into buying it and I'm glad ... Read More Rating: - If you think that you have ever been abused emotionally This an amazing look into the reality of emotional abuse. As a therapist I have been recommending this book to my clients. 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